Friday, June 26, 2009

(set to music while dancing around office in joy)

"Its Friday. . .Its Friday I do believe its Friday!"

YAAAAAAAAAHHHHHHHHHHHHHHOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO

Not that I mind Monday through Thursday, mind you, really I don't. LOL

And I don' t love Fridays exactly, what I love is in exactly six hours and thirty four minutes (and counting- down) I will leave this office, go get my beautiful little boy, and have two full days with him and his dad. Oh, and my girls too. LOL

So I have had a lot of negative energy on here, one would think that's all I do is vent and whine, its really not true, there has just been a lot going on lately that has made me more unhappy.

So here is a positive post - I hope.

I am proud that we have FINALLY started taking steps on getting Z baptized. This is something that is important to me, not really important to Charley as neither of his two are baptized. I am not overly religious and really need to get better at going to church each Sunday but it is very important to me that my children are raised in church. Tiffany was baptised even before she was formally adopted and went through CCD and confirmation etc. Z will do the same.

When we were at the hospital, before Z was born, and they were talking about taking him to NICU and transferring him to Children's Hospital, I made Charley promise that if his life ever seemed in jeopardy he would make sure he was baptised. Now, I have no idea if Charley would ever actually to that but I did make him promise. I wouldn't have cared if he was baptised Catholic either, just something.

The hitch in making these plans have been designating God parents, in the Catholic church you must have at least one practicing catholic for a god parent and I just really don't know anyone.

After a lot of discussions, Charley suggested we just ask Tiffany. Now, this concerned me for some reasons and pleased me for others. Tiff certainly does not conduct her life as a catholic and makes some very bad choices. She pretty much left Church when she got pregnant and didn't ever go back after the baby was put up for adoption. . .she feels like she was judged and, more likely is embarrassed. But. . .the upbringing is still part of her and still an important part of her life in some ways, I can see that.

We have concerns about Tiff and Z, she is very jealous of him and how I relate to him. She has expressed fear that now that I have a "real" child, I will forget my adopted one.

I want to encourage a relationship between them and having her as his Godmother will do just that, it also may gently encourage her to rethink her religion and maybe consider reestablishing a connection with the Church.

So the other night we asked her to be his god mother, she was so happy she almost cried. I agonized over this choice but in the end feel really comfortable about it.

We asked my cousin, who is not Catholic, to be the Godfather, I haven't heard from him one way or the other yet.

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