I am so angry that I am crying . . .or at least I was when I talked to my hubby.

So, Tiff had a echo cardiogram today that I was planning on taking her to, its at lunch time. Then I found out that they were going to do a work party for me for a co-worker and my birthdays-- they ordered Papa Johns pizza and brought in a cheesecake. Considering my earlier message that I am probably not doing anything for my birthday I was really excited.

So I sent a text message to my older two daughters asking if one of them could take Tiff today. I was pretty sure that Age was working at a summer camp this afternoon but Ash is home, not working, and available. Just had to get her butt out of bed.

God forbid.

Then I get a text from Tiff that Ash was screaming and yelling and cussing her out. I told her let me know if there were problems and I didn't get a response.

Then Age sent me a message that "Ash is screaming and cussing at tiff for having to take her, try not to ask Ash for help with tiff in the future, for some reason it stresses her out too much."

my response was gee I'm sorry I didn't think it would be a big deal, do I need to ditch my party and come get her?"

The response was "I don't know what the right thing to do is. I wish I could take her. Ash is having a mental breakdown right now and Tiff is crying in bed. It will pass but both of them are hurting"

I tried to call Charley to see if he could take her but he didn't answer.

Eventually, Ash apparently did take Tiff.

I sent Age another message, I'm sorry that Ash is having a mental breakdown but I didn't think it was a huge issue since Ash isn't working to ask for some help so I don't have to take off work. Sigh."

So the response was "its an ongoing issue that we seem to be tiff's primary caretakers. I don't mind but ash is wondering why you dont help out more with tiff. maybe we should have a fam meeting so we can all be happy again."

okay, I'm done.

here was my response. "I understand we don't intend you guys to be Tiffs primary caretakers but rather tiff be (not with $ obviously but with independence) I'm sorry it seems like it got pushed off on you guys..."

"We do need a family meeting though -we never sat down with you and ash to discuss our expectations for living at home because we didn't expect it to be this long but now with three additional adults at home we need to discuss what dad and I need from you guys. The resentment is cutting both ways so we should clear that up and discuss what we need from you guys too. "

Charley finally called and I told him what was going on but by that time I was in tears. Here someone is doing something for my b-day when I cannot afford to do anything for mine because I put every dime into Ash's b-day and it was too much to ask someone who lays around on their butt all day watching TV because she doesn't have a job to take her sister down the street to the doctors when I agreed to even pay for gas.

I work 50 hours a week, take care of a baby and take care of my house. These girls, one of which works part time and the other two don't have jobs cannot be bothered to clean up after themselves, are incapable of locking doors after themselves, leave my house in a mess, have never once offered to pay any toward utilities, and, by the way did I mention they are ADULTS. They are 27, 25, and 22. None of them need a caretaker, NONE of them have a right to live in my house, NONE of them show the least amount of appreciation and I am fed up with ALL of them. GRRRRR.

I didn't mind taking of to take Tiff but I really shouldn't have to. The ADULTS in the house should be grateful for everything they have and should be willing to help out with some stuff. Here, someone is doing something nice for me at work and I ask one of the sisters to help out and it apparently is a huge deal.

We have avoided the family meeting although its been a long time coming. I just didn't want the stress or having to deal with everyone acting like its unreasonable to ask them to clean up after themselves. Charley seems like he is happy treating them like kids and picking up after them. . .or more accurately me picking up after them. I can't stand it. I work full freaking time, I come home and want to spend the little bit of time I can with my baby and instead I have to clean up after a bunch of adults before I can even make my dinner.

So Tiff made it to her docs, I am about to have a lunch here and the whole thing has be ruined by a bunch of spoiled brats who think the world owes them something. At least Charley now knows how upset I am and I told him straight out we needed some changes or I was not willing to keep doing this.

Sorry if these seems harsh but I am so frustrated. I love the girls and am glad to help them out but I just can't believe how ungrateful they are.